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White Oprah: All The Single Ladies (And Homeboys)

Q: When will I find true love? What if I don’t find true love?  And even so, will I know it when I see it?

A: It’s the age old question.  And it’s no surprise.  Lurrrrrrrve is what hundreds – if not thousands – of movies revolve around.  Countless classical novels.  A myriad of magazine articles every month. The Beatles said it’s all you need.  Heck, it’s really what makes the world go ’round.  Right?

Right.  But it’s a layered, complicated question… an answer for one person could be completely wrong for another.  But in my opinion, love IS what we’re all looking to receive, and even more so, the ultimate gift we’re looking to give.  Whether it’s for another person, your dogs, or whether it’s for your family and friends.

But for those who are wondering when they’ll be finding their soul mate, I don’t know.  You don’t know.  And that’s the beauty of the process of life.

A few weeks ago, I came across a picture online that really resonated with me and I know with some good friends of mine:

What does that even mean?  Well, it means that one day, and yes, yes, when you’re least expecting it (it’s true!), you’re going to meet someone.  That person will have qualities and characteristics you can’t stop thinking about.


You’ll giddily start to date, meet each other’s friends, become exclusive, meet each other’s family, become comfortable enough to stop wearing your cute pajamas and start wearing your dad’s holey ones you used to sport every night before you met.  And one day, weeks or months or years later, you’ll realize that this is serious.  And maybe this is really going to be the one. There it is, you’re talking about “the one”.  See?  It… just… happens.


Until then, love others.  Love the elderly whose nails you paint at the nursing home every few Saturdays.  Love your friends for being the hilarious people they are. Love your parents.  Love your little brothers who throw parties for each other such as last month’s “Sam-A-Palooza”.  And duh, love yourself.

I will never forget the piece of advice my aunt gave me a few years ago, after a break-up with a bf of several years (thank GOD for that):  She said, “Before you can really enjoy being with another person, you have to really, really enjoy being by yourself.”

Have faith that your life is exactly where it’s supposed to be right now.


Off to my Montecito mansion to read under my cypress tree,
White Oprah, otherwise known as

Go Get ‘Em, Tigers!

I ran across this photo last night during the wee hours, after I had finished some work and was doing what I do best when I’m tired, which is mindless Facebook wandering, and occasionally cyberstalking.  Hey, whatever.  Once in awhile, everybody needs to know what’s going on in the life of the girl who sat next to you in the 2nd grade, wore a pink corduroy vest and stuck her tongue out at you every day.  Wassup, Desiree Williams! 

(photo via mon ami, Mathilde)

Anyhoo, this snapshot was a friend’s post-Chinese-takeout iPhone upload with the caption, “I’m framing this one.”  And I thought to myself, you go on with your bad self, girlfriend.  It struck me as extraordinarily poignant since said friend is currently FLOURISHING in the face of what has been a legitimate train wreck in the middle of a tsunami in her personal life…  the mind-numbingly painful kind that would’ve sent most people straight to the couch with some Ho-Ho’s, fried chicken, and Bridget Jones’ Diary on repeat for a year.  But this girl picked herself up, dusted herself off, made an ocean of sweet lemonade out of some crusty, RANK lemons, and is embracing everything around her with childlike enthusiasm.  I’m currently in awe of her.

Another friend of mine found out last night that he got into one of the top MBA programs in the country; one that has a 15% acceptance rate…  YIKES.  It was a longshot, and a year-long, grueling application process, but one of those things he said he just had to gun for, even if he came up short.  And, whatta ya know!  In a few weeks, he’ll be shopping for a new Trapper Keeper and some #2 pencils.  Giddyup, Big Red!

The fortune cookie quote reminds me of something my pseudo-big-sister and co-blogger, Karrie, used to say to me when I was in college:  “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?”  …and something one of my college volleyball coaches yelled to me one day during a vomit-inducing set of I’m-going-to-keel-over-any-minute-now marathon sprints:  “Your body is capable of so much more than you think it is.”  It’s all part of the same ball of wax, and it all boils down to the same thing:  If there’s something you want, GO FOR IT.  You only live once, and you really ARE capable of so much more than you probably realize.  Put yourself out there, and give it your best shot.  You’ll NEVER know unless you try, and almost every time, you’ll be surprised to find out what you’re made of.