House Beautiful


So the above title’s the result of watching an Oprah marathon today in my sweatpants thankyouverymuch.  I internally squeal with delight each and every time Ms. Winfrey introduces a new celebrity guest in a low, guttural-yet-powerful yell.  “Tiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiina FEEEEEYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”  Ok.  I digress.

Over the years, I’ve often doled out advice to my close friends – ranging from boyfriends to, well, life stuff.  Hence the nickname bestowed upon me.  My White Oprah post will be a now-public forum for me to expel my pearls of wisdom.  And I must stress that these pearls are only worn by me; if anyone reading this (Mom, Steph’s mom), disagree or want to comment on my advice, I’d love to hear any thoughts.  So here goes:

A common question amongst my friends nowadays:

Q: I want to know, and I would imagine single people my age want to know, why it’s okay to still be single at our age, and why we should embrace it.

A: Ok here’s the deal.  I know what it’s like to be in your late 20s, to have an awesome life: amazing friends, a cute apartment, lazy Saturdays when you’re not sure whether to get a mani/pedi or a massage, the time to come and go as you please – BUT with a tiny voice in the back of your head asking when and if The One will ever walk into your life.  It’s totally natural – you’ve got societal pressures left and right telling you it’s time to start having a family soon or else your eggs will be turning into tumbleweeds.  All I can say is, he will come along.  You won’t know when, you won’t know how, but he will.  So stop the worrying.  Ok, easier said than done, but I have to say, I am really really glad my mom gave me the advice she did.  Luckily for me, my mom instilled in me that I needed to use my 20s as the time in my life to be completely selfish… to focus on my career, to have fun, to enjoy life for me and only me.  So that’s exactly what I did.  And I LOVED my 20s for that.

And luckily, fate delivered me a wonderful man who I consider to be the love of my life.  I can’t imagine hurrying to settle down and never finding the person I was destined to be with.

So, take this time to truly enjoy freedom.  You will love the next phase in life settling down, but you’ll never have your selfish, swingin 20s back.


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